Questions about the wife’s.

[BrokenQuill]

I was utterly shamed by my wife when I revealed my fantasies to her. As I mentioned above, she asked if I had any fantasise that were unfulfilled. Her reaction wasn't what I expected, at least not as strongly as it was. Not only did she ridicule me and call me demeaning names, but she also insisted that I come out to my brother and sister-in-law and my team at work. This was on the understanding that if I didnt, then she would plaster my confession over soclal media. so you can see the impact it had on our relationship.

I complied with her demands although the reaction from my brother was as equally horrid for a while, despite our closeness. Perhaps I should have let her do her worst.

It took months before I could hold a civil conversation with my wife, all the while trying my hardest to shield my daughter and stepdaughter from this revelation.

Even now, some 8 or 9 years on, the anger is there from her, and its raised very time we fall out.

Our marriage is on a knife edge and the only thing that is keeping me, is that I have a mortgage to pay. The sad thing is that once its pid off I will be gone. I'm not paying the mortgage to keep our marriage, but to ensure that after I have left, she still has a home to live in with the kids. She cant afford to keep the house without my salary, and I'm damned if I am paying two mortgages at once!

Instead I smile and act the fun loving guy with all our friends and my work colleagues whilst grinding my teeth. I wont leave the family high and dry, because its my reputation that will be in tatters, but I will make sure that when I've left, they can see that I sacrificed my all, to make sure that they had security and safety.

[Don Williams]

I don't get why (particularly) women (especially when they depend on our economic support) insist upon having the men, with whom they are angry, jeopardize their careers to atone for a perceived slight. A fantasy is not an act, except in the world of evangelical "christianity." I'm married to a woman, like that, except that, until recently, she's never had a religious bone in her body. I will die before I reveal this secret, to her - not because I'm afraid of her, but because I know she will do everything, in her power, to ruin me, in the eyes of everyone I hold dear. Until recently, for me, all of this was just fantasy, but I'm not going to be celibate, for the rest of my life, nor will I replace her with a girlfriend.

[Jimfix44]

Don. For the power of it. They love the power.
Remember you are quickly replaceable to her if something better comes along. She’d swap any of us out in a heartbeat if a better opportunity came along for her.
They never really love us it’s just our turn with her.

[Don Williams]

Don. For the power of it. They love the power.
Remember you are quickly replaceable to her if something better comes along. She’d swap any of us out in a heartbeat if a better opportunity came along for her.
They never really love us it’s just our turn with her.

I'm not, quite, that jaded, yet. I really think it's upbringing and insecurity. I've, personally, met a few couples who are perfectly fine, on these matters. I've seen more than one couple share a dick and make out after eating pussy. Despite what I've seen, I think most men need to be skeptical when the wife asks to share their fantasies. That question is ALWAYS a trap. In most cases, there are no "safe" answers. My wife is jealous of EVERYBODY - even people on television. I, once, used Sandra Bullock as a background on my PC and she didn't talk to me for a week.

In over 30 years, I never cheated - never touched anyone other than her. At 18 years, she had a "friend" and blamed me for it. Yet, every year up to that, she was CONVINCED that I was sneaking around. I was sneaking around working my BUTT off, to buy her shit.

What I'm doing, now, isn't cheating, because it touches the ONE area of my life, in which we have no connection.

[Jimfix44]

Don. For the power of it. They love the power.
Remember you are quickly replaceable to her if something better comes along. She’d swap any of us out in a heartbeat if a better opportunity came along for her.
They never really love us it’s just our turn with her.

I'm not, quite, that jaded, yet.

Give it time my friend, give it time.

[Don Williams]

Give it time my friend, give it time.

LOL!